My name is Terry James Barthel Jr, and I am here to explain my brain injury story.
Well, most people don’t know, but I started drinking and smoking marijuana at age 13. Approximately a year later, I was in a car accident with both of my brothers and a family friend. The accident occurred on January 7, 2015, around 9pm. We decided to go out and pick up some marijuana, on our way back home, we were t-boned by a fully loaded semi-truck. When I finally came to my senses, I was lying in the middle of the highway, I sat up and asked myself if this was a dream. I got up off the ground and ran to the truck to see everyone still unconscious.
At that moment I thought everyone was dead until my brother opened his eyes and started to help me get the passenger door open. Once we got the door open, my brother Chase and I pulled my other brother out as flat as we could to get the driver out. Then we laid my brother Curty flat on the seats the best we could before EMT’s had arrived to take over.
Chase and I went to sit in the passersby truck to wait for more EMT’s to arrive. Before the second ambulance arrived for me, I was looking at myself in the mirror seeing all the blood covering my face. I got into the ambulance to go to the hospital, when we got to the hospital, my brother was screaming at the top of his lungs. My older brother and our family friend were released the same night we got to the hospital.
As for me, I stayed hospitalized for almost a month while Curty was hospitalized for quite some time. As the years progressed, we all saw doctors and counselors. My brothers now are diagnosed with schizophrenia. I’m the only one who really recovered from the accident, but I have found drugs to deal with the reality side of things. Now that I have been in jail for the last year, I have come across a tremendous support group. They have helped me get into treatment and other groups to help me find ways to cope with reality other than to use drugs.
The main issue for me was using drugs to hide from the trauma of the past. This has led to about 11 years of fighting with my addiction. I have gone to treatment once when I was 16 or 17 years old and a second time when I was 23 years old. Both times I went to treatment I completed the short-term residential part of the program.
I was in prison when I was 21 years old and now, I have to go back to prison for drug charges. It has taken me 394 days in jail, going to treatment, groups, and one on one counseling meetings to finally want to change my life around. Since I have been trying to overcome my trauma from the past without the use of drugs, I have been able to restore my thought process with positive productivity. It has also allowed me to find coping skills and deal with the past without drugs.
Now that I have such an amazing support group, I know I don’t have to be afraid to ask for help. I have been setting goals for myself to achieve daily because then I keep myself on task. I’ve learned that no matter what, you will never fully be able to restore some parts of the brain, functioning and impulsiveness, but I can work through the triggers with the tools I have learned. I don’t focus too far into the future because it can cause stress for me. I have been going by the saying, “One day at a time.”
I have set goals for each day to stay focused on the bigger goals for the future.
Here are some of my goals: try to get into a halfway house or sober living environment once released, find a job, rebuild relationships with my family, get away from Nebraska, and STAY SOBER.
One last thing I would like to share is how grateful I am to have these wonderful women: MenDi McCuiston, Marisa Mears, and Shir Smith as part of my support group. BIA-NE has helped me gain knowledge of brain injury and helped me develop the skills to be successful and have a life of freedom and stay substance free.
Thank you for reading.
The Brain Injury Association of Nebraska not only offers information and referral, but case management to find the resources and make positive changes to live a more fulfilling future with better coping strategies as well as memory aids on board. If you or someone you know has lasting effects from a brain injury, please contact us and allow us to offer our services, to find a new normal on this journey where ‘once you’ve seen a brain injury, you’ve seen one brain injury.
























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