Samuel was asked to share his journey and identify some struggles he has had along the way as part of a panel discussion at a conference earlier this year with the Brain Injury Association of Nebraska. The following are his thoughts that he was unable to share at the conference, but we thought were important to share on our social media.
My name is Samuel D. Richards, I’m 29 years old, I never thought I had any brain issues until I did the screening and realized a lot of the things asked, I often deal with daily. From sensitivity to louds sounds, vibrations and bright lights, living with a TBI has made me reevaluate the way I remember things and what process I go about completing something, so I don’t leave part out or forget steps.
Working with Shir at the Brain Injury Association of Nebraska has been a real blessing for me. She made it ‘okay’ that I had trauma and cognitive issues that came from a childhood of growing up in an abusive family where my dad broke my mom’s nose when I was 3 years old and later at age 7, he broke both her legs. When I was incarcerated for the 3rd time, I began meeting with a counselor regularly to seek help with deep issues like my drinking and dealing with daily depression. If I had gotten help from a program like BIANE during my first mistake that led me to jail, I might have understood earlier on at age 24, and not messed up so many times, to understand myself and what I was dealing with internally.
Some of the helpful skills I’ve been working with Shir on is consequential thinking, to pause and think about how I’m going to respond rather than being so impulsive and just rush through everything. To understand why taking time to stop and think about my thoughts, behaviors and actions, if I had used my patience many times, I would not be in so much trouble today. I’ve learned about anger management and how to not get so frustrated with myself and other things when dealing with my TBI. Every day I have to put my keys and wallet on the nightstand, or I’ll forget where I put them and rummage through my stuff in a rush and get worked up over nothing and trigger my anxious feelings, so I try to have a plan for my daily life with structure involved in it. It is also important that I write everything down or I’ll forget important meetings and appointments.
I would recommend the Brain Injury Association to all my friends and family because the skills I have learned have really given me an opportunity to look at the big picture of trauma and how many people have trauma and don’t even realize they have been dealing, or not dealing, with trauma. Others could be using some of the skills I’ve learned in the TBI class to help them understand how much a brain injury can affect you and the people around you. It’s a hand up and a chance to get a grip on the difference you can make for yourself and others just by understanding how your brain ticks!
The Brain Injury Association of Nebraska not only offers information and referral, but case management to find the resources and make positive changes to live a more fulfilling future with better coping strategies as well as memory aids on board. If you or someone you know has lasting effects from a brain injury, please contact us and allow us to offer our services, to find a new normal on this journey where ‘once you’ve seen a brain injury, you’ve seen one brain injury.
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